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Many days come that will challenge you. They cause you to doubt your capabilities, question if you're on the right path and look to others for encouragement. They exhaust you, demoralize you and make you want to throw in the towel.
On those days - more than any other - you have to find your inner strength. You have to re-discover that little voice that leads you and stay true to it. You have to do what you know to be right - even in the face of adversity. (ESPECIALLY in the face of adversity.) You have to allow your will to overcome and move forward to overcome your desire to give up.
NEVER GIVE UP. Life is short and tomorrow is uncertain, so you have to be sure to never give up on your dreams. You may not have much time.
Find your inner strength. Renew yourself today. And continue on your path...
Though you're tired and it's been a long week and you just don't see where you'll get the strength, remember this:
You Are Strong Enough.
The other day, I went to work feeling exhausted. I had done too much, had tried to meet too many obligations, and just felt like I had just over-extended myself.
So I went in to work to tackle what absolutely HAD to be done before I could go home, get some rest and restore my energy.
One of those tasks was to retrieve a 500 copy duplicating project I had sent to our duplicating center. For some reason, I had decided to wait until the very last minute to go and get it and now I was paying the price.
So I grabbed my cart, made the trek to the duplicating center, and after making an outside trip to a separate building, catching an elevator and then another long trek to the place, I finally arrived.
I got my copies and packed the three boxes they gave me on top of my cart. I looked at those boxes, thought about the long trek, elevator ride and outside trip I was going to have to make to get them back and then felt completely overwhelmed.
So I stopped and rested for a while. And while I was resting, I started plotting a new route back which would only involve going down one set of steps and then an outside trip and then I'd be back at my office. And as I studied the boxes, I realized there was a far more efficient way of stacking them, and so I proceeded to do just that.
And, before I realized it, I was re-stacking and moving boxes and making my return trip and having such a good time of it that I FORGOT how tired I was. It didn't occur to me until I had gotten down the steps, made the outside trip humming, and gotten back to my offices that, as a matter of fact, I was feeling GREAT!
So what had changed? Not my physical state. I was still exhausted and desperately needed to get some sleep.
But what had changed was my MIND.
It made me realize that we are unconvinced of our strength simply because we do not BELIEVE we have it in us. We believe we are too tired, too weak and too overtaxed to do the things which need to be done.
Well, I'm here to tell you today: You ARE strong enough.
You are strong enough to do all the things you need to do.
You are strong enough to problem-solve and advance your way out of that situation.
You are strong enough to be on top of the world.
You are strong enough to survive another day.
And you are strong enough to get through this challenge just like you did the last five challenges before this.
What makes you happy in the morning? What brings a smile to your face? Is it your child who is the light of your life? Does his big eyes looking up at you make you feel like you can conquer the world?
Where, for that matter, do you get your strength? What makes you feel like you can face almost anything? Is it your bank account? Do you feel like you have enough saved that you can get by if you need to?
What makes you feel safe? Is it your job or your mate? Have you been with your company so long you think you could never end up on the unemployment line? Or has your marriage been so good for so long you can see yourself living any other type of life?
How about your confidence and self-esteem? Have you gone through so much that you know you have the internal resources to face any challenges? Or were you really, really lucky and had a parent who loved you and made you feel like there was no one else like you in this world?
If you have all of those things - a beautiful child, a safe job, a good mate or good parents - consider yourself lucky. Be happy you've had the opportunity to experience those things and those people - they are what make up many of the blessings of your life. A lot of people would give all they have to experience those people and those things as well. Reflect on them. Enjoy them. But be warned....
Joy, strength, security and self-esteem don't come by way of external things or reliance on other people. What happens when your child grows up and you rarely see him? Will you still smile? What happens when your job and bank are downsized? Will you still feel secure? And what happens when your mate or parent dies (we all do eventually)? Will you still feel secure and good about yourself?
I don't ask these things to be morbid or to impact your gratefulness about your life. I say these things to remind you of one very important thing: Joy, strength, security and self-esteem come from within. They come from believing in something or Someone higher than yourself. They come from personal self-development, life lessons learned and your personal commitment to get the most out of life.
Simply put, remember this: be grateful for all those who have made your life unique. Be grateful for the things that have enhanced your life. But know that those things and those people are only here for a little while. What will lasts and what matters the most are the visions you carry on the inside. The personal Strength and Drive that make you who you are.
Don't rely on other people or on other things to give you what you can give to yourself. Find within yourself your personal joy, your personal security, your personal self-confidence and your personal Strength.
For those of us who are control freaks, I have a word of consolation.
Let me reassure you of something you've always feared:
Here it is: If you just let go of your rigidly, over-planned life for just one second, it'll still be okay.
The world will not spin apart, life will not end as you know it and everything will most likely be just fine.
If you take a vacation from work, the work will still get done and you will not get fired.
If you allow your spouse to spend time with the kids, they will still get fed, take their naps, have their diapers changed and be the healthy, adorable kids you know them to be.
If you eat one thing more than you intended for lunch, you will not gain five pounds.
If you show up five minutes late for your appointment (due to totally unforeseen circumstances), your client will understand - especially if you're normally on time.
Similarly, if your life has not turned out to be what you expected thus far, you still have time.
If you still haven't found that perfect mate, there's still hope.
And if you see no plan or purpose for your life at all - you still have today.
Here's a final note to those of us who are control freaks:
You cannot control anyone or anything. As a matter of fact, you can barely control yourself. You can only do what you can do when you are able to do it. You have done the absolute best you can with what you have and you will continue to do better as you heal emotionally and learn more about life.
You are not in control and you never will be. There will always be circumstances that will happen whether or not you plan for every contingency. You will now have to learn what words and phrases like "go with the flow" "be flexible" and "be prepared for anything" really mean. Because that's LIFE. Unpredictable, illogical, yet filled with wonder.
Let go. Take a vacation. Take a day off. Eat a bowl of ice cream. It's okay - the world will not end. Take today to enjoy what you have right where you are - acknowledging you have done your absolute best to accomplish your dreams, further your career and make a difference in this world.
Forgive yourself for anything you've done wrong and mentally prepare yourself for the next challenge you will surely face.