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Life is tough. Bad things happen so often, you often wonder what happened to your former sense of optimism. Or even if you were justified in being optimistic in the first place.
Kids go astray, bosses get on your nerves, husbands and wives fall apart and so it goes. That's just life.
You do the best you can - you hang on, you think positive, you still find something to laugh about and you live to fight another day. But you still wonder...is it all worth it?
Just remember when you feel that way - IT IS. Living life is worth it, because what's the alternative? To give up? To fade into the shadows? To jump off a bridge some place? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
Because, you know what? You've been here before. You've experienced tough times and got through them before. And not only did you SURVIVE, you THRIVED. Remember, remember, remember - IT'S ALL GOING TO WORK OUT IN THE END.
Though tomorrow seems dim and today is unpleasant, IT'S ALL GOING TO WORK OUT IN THE END. It always has and it always will. On the darkest days and seasons which you thought would never end - IT ALL WORKED OUT. When you thought you wouldn't be able to afford your house, keep your job or save your marriage - IT ALL WORKED OUT. Maybe not the way you thought or hoped it would, but IT ALL WORKED OUT.
Forget about whatever happened in the past, who does or does not like you and CERTAINLY don't focus on what's going wrong in your life.
Be Happy Anyway.
You could be sitting in a jail cell or in a mansion in Beverly Hills, but you surely know by now that circumstances don't dictate your level of happiness.
Be Happy Anyway.
Yes, you've made mistakes and yes, life is tough, but who cares?
Be Happy Anyway.
Happiness is the best revenge for every negative thing that has happened in your life. Happiness is your way of saying "I'm going to be at peace with the Universe and live my life to the fullest. No matter what."
Right here, right now, and ESPECIALLY in the middle of your meddlesome circumstances.
Be Happy Anyway.
Let the bad things come, experience the rough days, come home exhausted at times, but remember this:
Though you're tired and it's been a long week and you just don't see where you'll get the strength, remember this:
You Are Strong Enough.
The other day, I went to work feeling exhausted. I had done too much, had tried to meet too many obligations, and just felt like I had just over-extended myself.
So I went in to work to tackle what absolutely HAD to be done before I could go home, get some rest and restore my energy.
One of those tasks was to retrieve a 500 copy duplicating project I had sent to our duplicating center. For some reason, I had decided to wait until the very last minute to go and get it and now I was paying the price.
So I grabbed my cart, made the trek to the duplicating center, and after making an outside trip to a separate building, catching an elevator and then another long trek to the place, I finally arrived.
I got my copies and packed the three boxes they gave me on top of my cart. I looked at those boxes, thought about the long trek, elevator ride and outside trip I was going to have to make to get them back and then felt completely overwhelmed.
So I stopped and rested for a while. And while I was resting, I started plotting a new route back which would only involve going down one set of steps and then an outside trip and then I'd be back at my office. And as I studied the boxes, I realized there was a far more efficient way of stacking them, and so I proceeded to do just that.
And, before I realized it, I was re-stacking and moving boxes and making my return trip and having such a good time of it that I FORGOT how tired I was. It didn't occur to me until I had gotten down the steps, made the outside trip humming, and gotten back to my offices that, as a matter of fact, I was feeling GREAT!
So what had changed? Not my physical state. I was still exhausted and desperately needed to get some sleep.
But what had changed was my MIND.
It made me realize that we are unconvinced of our strength simply because we do not BELIEVE we have it in us. We believe we are too tired, too weak and too overtaxed to do the things which need to be done.
Well, I'm here to tell you today: You ARE strong enough.
You are strong enough to do all the things you need to do.
You are strong enough to problem-solve and advance your way out of that situation.
You are strong enough to be on top of the world.
You are strong enough to survive another day.
And you are strong enough to get through this challenge just like you did the last five challenges before this.
For those of us who are control freaks, I have a word of consolation.
Let me reassure you of something you've always feared:
Here it is: If you just let go of your rigidly, over-planned life for just one second, it'll still be okay.
The world will not spin apart, life will not end as you know it and everything will most likely be just fine.
If you take a vacation from work, the work will still get done and you will not get fired.
If you allow your spouse to spend time with the kids, they will still get fed, take their naps, have their diapers changed and be the healthy, adorable kids you know them to be.
If you eat one thing more than you intended for lunch, you will not gain five pounds.
If you show up five minutes late for your appointment (due to totally unforeseen circumstances), your client will understand - especially if you're normally on time.
Similarly, if your life has not turned out to be what you expected thus far, you still have time.
If you still haven't found that perfect mate, there's still hope.
And if you see no plan or purpose for your life at all - you still have today.
Here's a final note to those of us who are control freaks:
You cannot control anyone or anything. As a matter of fact, you can barely control yourself. You can only do what you can do when you are able to do it. You have done the absolute best you can with what you have and you will continue to do better as you heal emotionally and learn more about life.
You are not in control and you never will be. There will always be circumstances that will happen whether or not you plan for every contingency. You will now have to learn what words and phrases like "go with the flow" "be flexible" and "be prepared for anything" really mean. Because that's LIFE. Unpredictable, illogical, yet filled with wonder.
Let go. Take a vacation. Take a day off. Eat a bowl of ice cream. It's okay - the world will not end. Take today to enjoy what you have right where you are - acknowledging you have done your absolute best to accomplish your dreams, further your career and make a difference in this world.
Forgive yourself for anything you've done wrong and mentally prepare yourself for the next challenge you will surely face.